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Aug 19, 2021

Your Complete Family Discussion Guide For Hospice Care

Sponsored Content provided by Kelly Erola - Chief Medical Officer, Lower Cape Fear LifeCare



The diagnosis of a life-limiting illness is devastating. It creates emotions, issues and anxiety unequal to almost anything else in life. It’s all too easy to slip into the “comfort” of denial, pretending that if the issue is not discussed, it will fade into the background.
Nothing could be further from the truth. Avoidance can complicate the situation. In fact, most of our families say they wish they had called hospice sooner. It’s important to understand hospice life expectancy: Hospice is appropriate for those who have been diagnosed with a life-limiting illness with a life expectancy of 6 months.
In fact, it’s vital to have this discussion about advanced health care decisions long before a crisis arises. We also understand that for many families, it is a difficult discussion to begin. This complete family discussion guide will help you start the conversation.

How to Start the Conversation About Hospice Care 

1. Decide Who Needs to Be Involved in the Discussion
Who has been responsible for helping your loved one seek care? Do close friends need to be a part of the conversation, or is it better to keep it private among family members? These are some of the questions you should consider.
It’s also important for families and patients to have the information needed to have a productive discussion. This may involve speaking with physicians, hospice workers or religious/ spiritual leaders.

2. Make Preparations with an Advance Directive
An advance directive legal documentation that provides written instructions about your health care if, for some reason, in the future, you are not able to speak for yourself. It’s imperative to have one so that you or your loved one’s wishes will be made known before the disease progresses; it’s often impossible to have a comprehensive discussion when patients are sick, in pain or sedated. Therefore every family needs to understand the magnitude of an advanced health care plan.
      Why is an Advance Directive Important?
The importance of fully understanding the hospice patient’s wishes cannot be overemphasized. Begin the Conversation, an advanced care planning program through Lower Cape Fear LifeCare,  illustrates this importance with the following statistics:

  • While nearly 80 percent of Americans state that they would like to die at home, almost 75 percent don’t.
  • Those without advanced care planning—such as an advance directive or a living will—are moved an average of three times in the last weeks of life.
  • Less than one-third of adults have an advance directive.
  • 80 percent of Americans don’t want their life extended by machines.
  • Over the last 15 years, the use of mechanical ventilation in the last 90 days of life has dramatically increased.
3. Make a List of Important Questions to Consider
Create a list of topics to discuss before the actual meeting with your family members and care team so you won’t forget anything.
Some questions you may consider including are:
  • Will our loved one be able to ride in a car? How should he/she be transported?
  • What medication and supplies does hospice provide?
  • Will he/she be able to keep their physician?
  • Is there an on-call nurse we can contact in case of an emergency?
  • Where will he/she be treated? Can treatment be received at home?
  • Will the hospice chaplain work closely with his/her spiritual leader? (rabbi, priest, imam, etc.)
  • What ethical dilemmas should we be prepared to face?
  • What is our hospice benefit? Is it paid for by Medicare/Medicaid?
  • What can we reasonably expect for our loved one’s quality of life?
  • What will happen if our loved one is unable to eat?
  • What pain management treatment will be available?
In addition, it’s also a good idea to take notes. During meetings, you’re often faced with a lot of information at once, and it helps to have something you can refer to later. You should also ask if there is a hospice end-of-life brochure available.

4. Take Advantage of the Resources Available to You
It’s vital to know that your hospice care workers are willing and able to answer any questions.  At Lower Cape Fear LifeCare (formerly Lower Cape Fear Hospice), families and patients have access to a wealth of resources, including our knowledgeable and compassionate team of experts. This team includes:
  • Hospice physicians
  • Registered nurses and nurse practitioners
  • Hospice nurse case managers
  • Medical social workers
  • Chaplains and volunteers
  • Certified nursing assistants
  • Grief counselors
For more information about Lower Cape Fear LifeCare’s services, visit lifecare.org. To determine if you or a loved one may be eligible for hospice care, take our short quiz at WhichCare.org, or call us at 800-733-1476. We’re happy to answer your questions.


Kelly Erola, MD, FAAHPM, FAAFP, is currently the Chief Medical Officer for Lower Cape Fear LifeCare, based in Wilmington, NC, where she has worked since 2017. Previously, she was Chief Medical Officer for Hospice Savannah, Inc. for 16 years and physician leader of the Steward Center for Palliative Care. Dr. Erola is board certified in hospice and palliative care medicine and has been involved full-time in palliative care since 2002.
 
 

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